Let’s talk finance in dating & relationships

Can we talk real quick about finances and dating? I mean let’s be real. A relationship is full of love and happiness and all that good stuff, but at the end of the day, we’re running a business. Our family is a business. We have bills, credit cards, goals, things we want to do and achieve, so it’s only right that the fundamentals of our relationships should start with finances. It’s the root of EVERYTHING whether you want it to be or not. We have to have business meetings where we discuss all of these things, make spreadsheets but always be on the SAME page.

It’s been so beneficial that we started our relationship discussing finances and together we’ve made financial sacrifices and are continuing to make financial sacrifices for the long term goal. Yeah, we’ve missed some vacations and dinners when our friends asked, we didn’t buy “new stuff,” and left the material items behind. We’re growing together and doing it together. This isn’t a one person sacrifice. If I am sacrificing, he is equally sacrificing. We do it together. 

We’re nowhere near where we want to be, but we are off on the right start. We’ll have bumps along the way, more things we’ll have to say no to, but in the end, it’s talked about and we’re on the same page. 

When I first wrote the first part of this post, Kyle and I were living in our first apartment together, barely any furniture, no decorations on the walls. Not that this stuff is important, but to me it helps make a place feel more like a home. 

Fast forward to today. We stuck to the root of keeping finances in our marriage and continue to, we are in a beautiful home that now has furniture! I mean, we upgraded a bit with having a pool and hot tub, but I think you get the idea. It took us both sacrificing in that season to see the beautiful end goal in mind. We built the life we have together. We still have more goals and big pictures to see, but because we constantly have business meetings, no one is ever out of the loop on how the family business runs. We do it together! 

I hope you find some encouragement in this post to discuss your finances with your partner and treat your family as a business. Two is always better than one, and we are meant to do this thing called life together as a family. Finances can be hard to discuss and sometimes scary if you aren’t in a good place, but when you dive into it, I am sure you will feel much better. You will know exactly what needs to be done to reach your big goals, and you will do it TOGETHER!